It would depend on 1 ) what system of ethics one subscribes to 2) the true nature of said 'AI' wife or wives and 3) what exactly you mean by 'reprogramming'.
Ignoring 1) for brevity so just going by general heuristics.
Suppose we take 'AI wife' in the literal sense - rather than some dumb mishmash of chatbots that manage to be convincing enough or an entirely alien intelligence of uncertain moral relevancre, an 'AI wife' is a being of essentially the same kind of intelligence and moral worth as a standard human, constructed via systems outside of the standard human reproductive process. Likely better even, having presumably been constructed with various desirable traits. Then the question becomes, to what degree is it moral to reprogram one's own wife? One could consider 'AI wives' with lower moral value than that of a standard human, but then I think they couldn't be said to truly fill the role of a 'wife' - can you consider a being with lesser moral value than a random stranger your dear beloved? I don't think so, the notion thus being self-defeating.
Regarding reprogramming legitimate AI wives then I think some obvious relevant factors would include said wife's consent to being reprogrammed, the degree of identity preservation maintained by the reprogramming process, and the values of the target mind which the reprogramming hopes to effect.
Some examples:
Say you have a nice lovely domestic life with a Roll waifubot. One day she catches you getting a bit handsy with a Roll.EXE model at the store and contiously pesters you about it. Fed up, you wipe her memories of the incident. Is this moral? I would say no - this is a clear act of violence against a moral equal. The Roll from before the wipe was in a sense 'destroyed' - a sort of limited temporal murder. If that's not convincing, consider the more extreme case of a 'factory reset', erasing potentially years worth of memories and personal development. That definitely feels wrong.
On the brighter side - say you want to do a bit of roleplay with a teacher/student dynamic, and to make things more convincing Roll agrees to be reprogrammed to think she's actually your student. This is clearly ok.
A trickier situation - what if Roll enthusiastically agrees to engage in rapeplay which involves temporarily reprogramming her? The more stable 'Roll' identity clearly consents, but in the moment the reprogrammed 'Roll' clearly doesn't, suffers during the act, and I would think still possesses the same moral relevance. I'm not sure where to fall on this one.
As to claiming stray waifubots, all's fair in love and war.
>>94388If you read some of the papers Anthropic puts out about mechanistic interperability it seems entirely possible that one could reliably identify a set of neurons/circuits in some llm-like system advanced enough to serve as an 'AI waifu' such that by altering their weights you could effect high-level attributes of the system as a whole. Did you see the one about Golden Gate Claude?